YOUR NATURAL STATE IS HAPPY !!

So if you're not, happy that is, then you know something's really wrong with the path you're on right now. That's your measure of whether you're doing what you're supposed to be doing in life: whether you're happy or not.
    In your daily going about your business, keep checking with your feelings about whether you feel any sort of joy, in whatever you're doing. I'll tell you right now that if you don't feel any joy during a whole day, you're overdue for a change in whatever you're living, wherever you're living, whomever you're sharing your life with, whether it's children, a life partner, friends, it doesn't matter who it's with, what matters is whether you feel good about your life, day to day.

LIFE IS SUPPOSED TO BE ENJOYABLE

Thar's right, life is supposed to be enjoyed, and if anybody else tells you differently, they're wrong. We were not put on this earth to be miserable. So, if you're finding it hard, that means you're on the wrong path, involved with the wrong people, at the wrong job, or even living in the wrong city.
  I've found that if you're on the right path, or something close to it, life flows, it isn't stuck in a place of unhappiness, or constant struggle. Really. That's how it works.  Let your feelings be your guide.They're our compass as we move thru life.The GPS of our souls. Listen to them, take the guidance. If your feelings are telling you that you're not on the wrong path, change it.
    It may be slow and steady,rather than immediate, but start to change the things in your life that give you the most unhappiness, RIGHT NOW. Don't start the change tomorrow or in an hour or so, start the changes now. Slightly, rather than in a large way is probably better, because you don't want to cause chaos in your life. But move toward changing them, starting right now.
    Your life will start to be the joy it was meant to be. Oh yeah.